Showing posts with label disabled. Show all posts
Showing posts with label disabled. Show all posts

Friday, 4 November 2016

Inside the world of Sensual Solutions - a VICE video on Sex and Disability

   


Ever wondered what Sensual Solutions is all about? Check out this mini-documentary done by VICE - New York. We were filmed in August of this year and are proud to participate in their 4 part series on sex and disability.


  • You'll get a peek at what happens in an appointment.
  • You'll hear from Coach Lexi 
  • You'll see client, Spencer Williams, talking about his disability and sexual health

Pleasure without apology,

Trish St John


#disability #access #sexualhealth #sci #cerebralpalsy #surrogate #sexability #vice #massage #tantra #wheelchair #coach

Tuesday, 16 February 2016

More Than Sex Toys Interview and 20% Discount!

Trish St. John of Sensual Solutions

  Sex & Disabilities  Sex Education  Sex Therapy
We present an interview with the founder of Sensual Solutions, Trish St. John. Located in British Columbia, SENSUAL SOLUTIONS provides intimacy coaching and sexual surrogacy for individuals with disabilities. In appreciation of her time we are establishing a 20% discount for readers. Simply enter TRISH in the discount code window at checkout and you will receive 20% discount off our Sex & Disabilities Collection.
Also Trish has asked us to include Spinal Cord Injury British Columbia in our Coupons for Causes program. This means that if you use discount code SCIBC at checkout, we will take 7.5% off your order (excluding shipping) and we will make a donation in the same amount to SCI-BC.  
How did your organization get its name?
I was driving in my car mulling over names. I wanted the name to convey an answer to a problem and I felt we had to have something that was sexy and could be googled easily. Once I said the name out loud, it stuck! Sensual Solutions.
Please tell us about your organization and how it came about. What kinds of services or programs does Sensual Solutions provide?
If you look on the website's 'founder' page you'll be able to read the story in full. http://www.sensualsolutions.ca/
We provide education, awareness, advocacy and assisted or facilitated intimate services for men, women, and couples with physical disabilities in the Greater Vancouver area. From cuddling and kanoodling to erotic energy work and more, we help our clients understand, explore and ignite their personal passion. Pleasure without apology!
How does Sensual Solutions differ from other organizations?
I don't think there is another organization like this in Canada. Health organizations offer information about sexual health and we take it to the next level to give our clients a way to experience the information and explore further. We take the theory and apply it practically.
How do your programs enhance customers' experiences?
Just read our testimonials. Minds are blown.....lol. We not only make a difference with our clients but also with many parents of adult children with disabilities who are grateful they have a resource to turn to.
Adult toys have gone mainstream. We see them everywhere from Walmart and Target to Rite-Aid and of course on Amazon. How has mainstream acceptance affected your group and how you develop programs or interface with the public?
Mainstream acceptance is not 100% across the board. We still come across people from the stone-age who feel that people with disabilities are not sexual beings and therefore do not condone what our organization does. Having said that, at this point in time we are really seeing and feeling a positive shift around the world for the human and sexual rights of persons with disability. Many countries offer intimacy services either through sex workers, surrogates, or clinical studies such as the case in Israel.
We've opted to interface with the public by branding our organization as more of a medical model and part of everyday good health. With the advent of a variety of sexual and sexuality-type services and education today, it's no longer about lumping sex work under prostitution as the 'spectrum' of sex work is evolving -- somatic sexology, sex surrogates, tantra practitioners, yoni massage, rehab spinal cord injury sperm retrieval, and many other modalities under the Human Sexuality umbrella.

Who is your target market?
Adult men, women, and couples with physical disabilities; doctors, relationship and sex therapists, parents of adult children living with disability, health care education system.
What would you like clients to know about your programs and organization that marketing materials might not adequately communicate?
Use the service and help us break down barriers about sexuality and disability. 
What are there programs or resources which your group provides that do not get enough recognition?
Advocacy
What kind of regulation or oversight affects your organization?
It’s a pioneering field so its legally unregulated however some would argue differently.

How do you evaluate the effectiveness of the services and education you provide?
We ask our clients. We provide pre and post session questions and survey. We measure feedback, referrals, repeat clients, and social media tracking.

Who are three others in your field whom you admire and why? What makes them different or distinctive?
Rachel Wooten (Australia), Cheryl Cohen-Brown (USA), Andrew Gurza (Canada).  
Is there a more polite term or appropriate term we should use when discussing this subject?
Sexual surrogacy or facilitated or assisted sexual health. And thanks for asking!
Can you please explain the most common challenges faced by those with physical disabilities?
I cannot speak for all, but depending on the injury or disability, I hear and read that depression, isolation but also lack of privacy, are huge issues.
What are common misconceptions that both disabled and non-disabled persons have when it comes to sex and sexual wellness?
Some common misconceptions from disabled people is:
  1. Spinal cord injury - I'll never be able to have sex or have children - this is inaccurate
  2. I won't be able to achieve orgasm
  3. I won't be a good sexual partner
  4. I am not sexy or feel sexy or look sexy
The able-bodied population has misconceptions about people with disabilities having sexual pleasure. Many people who use wheelchairs are asked outright by strangers about their sex life and how they "do it."
What kind of training for healthcare professionals receive when it comes to sexual wellness?
Lots of materials and training is available and very useful information. It's just 'applying' the information that seems to be a huge ethical and legal barrier.
Since we do sell products for all walks of life, what are some products you recommend?
Anything that someone can use who has limited use of their hands and arms - i.e. VELCRO® straps are helpful. Intimate rider, foam wedge, bean bag chair, Magic Wand, etc are all popular. Virtual reality and other products like the life-like dolls from Japan are pretty amazing too! Who knows what we'll have in 20 years that will help anyone who is isolated or far away from their lover. 
Anything to do with brain mapping and retraining the pleasure/erogenous zones from non-working parts to other areas of the body that have sensation. I am hopeful that virtual reality or artificial intelligence will play a role in this. 
Have you ever encountered problems with the design of sexual wellness products because of physical limitation or disability? Please describe.
Yes. Too clunky, too hard plastic, too hard to hold, too embarrassing, too loud.
What are some recommendations you have for disabled people to build their self-esteem and feeling of “sexiness”?
Call us!
What are some of the criteria you recommend for clients and students when choosing a toy?
Easy to use, easy to clean, discreet, not too noisy : ), controllable either through attachments or keyboard/remote control, not too expensive, nothing where you have to put in batteries or ask your care aide for help. Almost need a "selfie stick" that bends easily!
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Friday, 12 February 2016

Valentine's Survival Guide for Singles






Valentine's Survival Guide


(As posted today in the Rick Hansen Foundation blog.)

For people who are single (and even for those who aren’t) Valentine’s Day isn’t always so sweet. Here are some tips and resources to help you through the day from Trish St John, founder of Sensual Solutions, an organization that assists adults with disabilities explore and discover their sexuality.

Remember your grade school Valentine’s experience? It starts to sink in around this time: This day isn’t always so great. And if you know the history of the holiday, St. Valentine’s story isn’t a happy one either. He was beheaded on February 14 in the 3rd century (which really sucked for him).

These days, many people feel that Valentine’s Day is uncomfortable, unnecessary and a cause of anxiety. Yes, one of the most romantic days of the year is also one of the most stressful.  A commercially-driven economic powerhouse for florists, chocolatiers, restaurants, jewelry stores, and fancy underwear makers - it’s a lot of pressure and a lot of expectation to make the day extra special and romantic for your significant other.  Now, what about if you’re single and living with a disability? It’s easy to feel down and alone on Valentine’s Day. Here are some tips and resources that will help you make it through the day:

Love yourself first: Spend the day appreciating you! 
  • Reflect on your uniqueness and what you’re grateful for
  • Read a good book, have a nice meal, call an old friend
  • Eat chocolate and drink wine
  • Become a romantic – explore the art of romance and intimacy from a Sensual Solutions coach!
  • Enjoy the day no matter what you choose to do

Get out there: There are lots of fun group activities to participate in!
  • Check out some meet-up groups in your area
  • Discover the various Facebook pages and groups devoted to dating and dating for people with disabilities
  • Go dancing! Visit Just Dance! for a different kind of dance experience

Rage against the Valentine’s machine: Have a little anti-Valentine's fun.

  • Netflix and wine, lots of wine
  • Have a “Stupid Cupid” event: a night at the pub with your friends, a night in with your family or cuddling with your pet on the couch
  • Buy a heart-shaped piñata and beat the crap out of it until candy falls out. Eat all the candy.

Love where you live: Forget all the hearts and flowers and make it a day to support your community.
  • Give blood. Denounce Cupid’s powers and give from your heart – blood banks are always in short supply
  • Adopt or foster a furry or feathered companion. Studies show that loving an animal reduces stress and increases the feel good drugs – dopamine and oxytocin. There are many terrific animal rescue organizations throughout the province as well.

Pat Benatar knew it best when she sang “Love is a Battlefield.”  So gear up and get ready for another year of teddy bears and red heart-shaped balloons, but remember, it’s only one day – protect your self-esteem and send loving thoughts inward and out into the universe. It can’t hurt. And it won’t suck. 

About the author: Trish St John is the founder of Sensual Solutions, an organization that assists adults with disabilities explore and discover their sexuality. Intimate and respectful care for men, women, and couples. Find more information about Sensual Solutions on their websiteFacebook page, or Twitter account



Tuesday, 20 January 2015

NATIONAL HUG DAY - JAN 21

Tomorrow is National Hug Day.  So, in honour of this spectacular event, let's learn a little about why hugging and cuddling are so darn good for us.... 
 
10 INCREDIBLE FACTS ABOUT CUDDLING


It’s no secret that cuddling makes you feel good when you’re in a new or established relationship. It’s also something that you miss greatly when you’re single. But did you know there’s actually a scientific reason for that? It’s true! There are many surprising benefits of cuddling—so read on, and you’ll want to cuddle someone right now!
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1. Cuddling releases oxytocin.

Oxytocin is a hormone that does everything from making you feel good to helping you feel connected to others. Oxytocin is crucial in the act of cuddling, as you’ll see from its benefits popping up in the list below.

2. Cuddling boosts your immune system.

When you’re so in love you feel invincible, you’re experiencing oxytocin release. This feel-good hormone makes you feel like nothing can hurt you—which is an amazing benefit! It also increases hormones that help fight infection. So, basically, you’re boosting your immune system because you’re feeling too good and healthy to get sick. The power of positive thinking—and feeling loved and secure—actually works!

3. Cuddling relieves pain.

Just as it boosts your immune system, cuddling and releasing oxytocin will decrease your pain levels. Whenever your neck hurts, what do you do? Rub it, right? Even simple touches like that release enough oxytocin to make you feel better, so imagine the effect cuddling has!

4. Cuddling helps deepen your relationships.

Communication is important in relationships, but people often forget how effective and meaningful touch can be. When your career is so stressful you come home and can’t stop thinking about the job, you’re taking a negative toll on your relationship. Instead, imagine coming home and cuddling with your partner for even ten minutes a day. This brief break from the stress of everyday life will not only give you all the other benefits listed here, but will also deepen your relationship. You’ll be taking time to focus solely on your partner and what you feel for them.

5. Cuddling can lead to more.

Even non-erotic touch can release dopamine, which is a hormone that increases sexual desire. Getting a sweet hug or massage from your partner after a long day can lead to more, which is win-win for both of you! Regular sexual activity will strengthen your relationship as well. Also, sex is a good stress reliever, and an easy way to get in some physical activity.

6. Cuddling helps women bond.

Have you heard the term “oxytocin” in relation to childbirth and breastfeeding? It’s because this chemical doesn’t just inspire good feelings between couples—it also works for women and their babies. Oxytocin helps relax the mother, so that breastfeeding may come more easily. It also enables sleep, even when the mother might have difficulty sleeping with a newborn in the house.
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7. Cuddling reduces social anxiety.

Oxytocin inspires positive thinking. It helps you have an optimistic outlook on the world. Which means when you get a hug right as you arrive at the party where you only know one person, you’re going to feel happier and more social going in. You’ll feel like you can charm everyone at the party. And with oxytocin coursing through your system, you will!

8. Cuddling reduces stress.

It’s obvious by now, right? Oxytocin is an amazing natural hormone that has so many benefits for the human body. It’s only natural that all these positive effects are going to release stress, also. You’re feeling more connected with your partner, you’re feeling confident in social situations, your immune system is stronger—what do you have to be stressed about? You have a great, cuddle-filled, loving life. Enjoy it!

9. Cuddling lowers your risk of heart disease.

Yup—oxytocin again! All the benefits listed above add together to mean less stress, less anxiety, lower blood pressure and—you got it—a lower risk of heart disease! Because your heart is happier and not working as hard to combat the effects of stress and sickness, you’ll be healthier, longer.

10. Cuddling doesn’t have a definition.

Cuddling doesn’t have to be between you and your romantic partner. It doesn’t even have to be with another person—you can rub your own shoulders! You can also hug friends or play with your pets. If you don’t want to be social or don’t have a furry friend, never fear! You can take a warm bath or get a massage. Feeling warm and connected by some sort of touch is enough to release oxytocin into your system and get you feelin’ good!

Featured photo credit: Lovers kissing and cuddling on a city street with passersvia Shutterstock



This article was reprinted and was written by: Allison Renner

Monday, 8 December 2014

Quinn Visiting Vancouver - Dec 12 to 14


Our lovely Quinn moved very far away but is traveling back to #Vancouver for the weekend of
Dec 12-14. If you would like to have a session with Quinn while she is here, please give our office a call or fill out a House Call Request form. She is a delight! #intimate #sensual #disabled #massage

Click here to see Quinn's profile

604-569-1136

Tuesday, 2 December 2014

Amelie Returns to Vancouver!

Welcome back Amelie!


We are really happy to tell you that Amelie has returned to Vancouver and will be with us for about six months. Amelie is from Europe and is a wonderful #sensualcoach.  She speaks English fluently. We know you would enjoy her company and her experience. Very lovely, friendly, and sweet 22 year old.

If you have a physical challenge, #disability, or impairment and you would like to learn more about your sexual health, please call on us. We are here to assist you to live a full life regardless of any challenge.

604-569-1136


Monday, 17 November 2014

Mei-Lee: Our newest Sensual Coach

A NEW COACH

We have just hired a lovely young Asian-Canadian woman to be our newest #sensual coach. Her name is Mei-Lee and she is a sweet treat! Mei-Lee is available for couples, men, and women and welcomes all LGBT clients too. She is available for the greater Vancouver area and also Whistler!  604-569-1136

Wednesday, 5 November 2014

Facilitated Sex: The Next Frontier in Sexuality and Disability


Wow - what a interesting story about PCAs (personal care aides) and sex facilitation for adults with disabilities.  Dr. Mitchell Tupper's blog will open your eyes to perhaps several levels of discussion about sex:

- the pressure for disabled adults to have intercourse - is it really necessary? is it worth it?
- the religious aspect of the PCA's beliefs and the guilt/shame/embarrassment. Can it be balanced?
- the ethical/moral code to accommodate sexual health of the disabled. For or against?

Let me know what you think....


Click on the link to read the article:
Facilitated-sex-the-next-frontier-in-sexuality-and-disability/

Tuesday, 21 October 2014

People with disabilities love sex too!



Don't Count Us Out: People with Disabilities Love Sex Too



  • What's your disability? 
  • How were your injured? 
  • How do you deal with your difficult situations?  

While these are all popular questions people disabilities hear, none of these are more popular than the question most of us get the most -- can you still have sex?  

Yes that's right, the masses love to wonder this.
And the answer to this tantalizing question- we can, thank god but it's usually a bit different. But different doesn't necessarily equate to bad. Even though some people get freaked out by different, a lot of people don't. The average able-bodied person would definitely be surprised at how many people are ok getting it on with someone who is disabled.

It can be quite the interesting adventure when dating and meeting new people. It can get quite funny or offensive, depending on how you look at it.  When I first became sexually active it was a bit later in life and just like everybody's first time, it wasn't that good.  Memorable yes, but good? Hell no.

For people with disabilities, we too dream of the perfect sexual rendezvous, trying to replicate something we saw in a porno, just like everyone else.  It just takes a bit more muscle power and creative thinking when you're dealing with limited mobility to make that happen.

For a lot of us, achieving great sex isn't necessarily about reaching the big orgasm either.  It's about everything before that - the intimacy, the kissing, the looks into each others eyes - we have to learn to be a little bit slower and more calculated since our mobility isn't as fluid.  While this can sometimes put a damper on eager partners, the right one will enjoy the process.  It's incredibly important to find a partner who enjoys learning and figuring out solutions when you have a disability.  A partner with no patience is no fun.
 
People with disabilities even go online for the random hookup. I'm not condoning this, but it does happen. Most would be very surprised at how many people with disabilities are posting ads on Craigslist at this very moment and it's not because we are all desperate.  Many people with disabilities have great success picking up people when they're at bars or out and about.  I've seen it with my own eyes.

We're successful when we're confident. It's normal for people with disabilities to have lowered confidence, but once we find out we can still be perceived as sexy, for many that's all we need to find the confidence we were searching for.  It's important for people with disabilities though to try not to compete with able-bodied people when it comes to all the crazy sexual moves. For many of us, complicated positions will never be possible.  We instead have to find ways to bring out the best in the simpler moves, to enjoy it more simpler things in bed and this can be quite fun too.

We're all human at the end of the day, with hormones and genitals, and lips and fantasies. Sex is a God given right to all of us, even if some of us struggle to find partners.  We can't put our desires on hold if it makes people uncomfortable. Instead, each and every one of us needs to learn how to embrace our sexuality before it's too late.  Sex is one of the greatest gifts of life no matter how different we do it.

How do you still enjoy sex?




by
Tiffiny Carlson is a writer and quadriplegic from Minneapolis. She has a C6 spinal cord injury from a diving accident when she was 14 years old. Writing and breaking stereotypes is her passion.

Wednesday, 15 October 2014

Working With A Surrogate



604-569-1123
When working with a Sensual Coach, they focus on eye contact, hugging, cuddling, massage and touch therapy, exploring their body and yours.  With this intimacy work, you can gain insights to your own pleasure and increase the brain's pleasure chemical - dopamine.  Its very good for your mood and overall wellbeing. Throughout your sessions, Coaches hope to ease anxiety and help you gain confidence with your body and your sexuality. 

The biggest obstacle is our brains.  We often hold back due to those negative thoughts that we've carried with us about body image and what's "normal."  And yet its our brain that receives the greatest benefit from intimacy and touch. Go figure.

If you know of someone with a physical disability who would like to experience intimacy, please give us a call.  No obligation.

Give us a cuddle!


Monday, 9 June 2014

Vancouver Island - Clients Wanted!

Vancouver Island!

If you are a disabled adult and would like to experience your sexuality with a respectful Sensual Coach, then please give us a shout! 

Our coach, Nico, will be visiting the Island from June 28 - July 6 and is available for appointments.  Nico is a beautiful young lady who sees males, females, couples (straight or gay). We have received awesome feedback about her service and knowledge.  Feel free to call us or go to our website for more information. 

Happy Summer!


Friday, 25 April 2014

Sex Coach to Visit Calgary in June

Calgary Here We Come!  One of our sensual coaches - the gorgeous Paloma - will be visiting Calgary in June.  We will have more info in the coming weeks.  Check out our website and learn more about #sensualsolutions and #disabledsex.  Let's get it on....

Paloma in Calgary this June!  604-569-1136


Thursday, 17 April 2014

WE NOW TAKE INTERAC



Thanks to our client feedback, we have now added Interac e-transfer banking as a payment option.

Convenient, secure, private. If you can’t get to your bank, then e-transfer may be a great solution for a Sensual Solution? 
Check out our website!

Tuesday, 25 March 2014

Sex and Disability Go Together?

Article from The Guardian by Fran Vicary:

Sex and disability: yes, the two can and should go together

My disability means I cannot independently dress, shower or feed myself – but with support, I can have a fulfilling sexual life. I wish more people with a disability could say the same

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‘My support workers would squeeze me into spunky corsets and fishnets’. Photograph: Sarah Lee
Sex and sexuality are very contested spaces for people with disabilities. Services, governments, support workers and even the best, most forward thinking parents often see it as a bridge too far. Many people with disabilities are supported in every other aspect of their lives, but this is often delivered in a way that treats them as asexual.

Almost every person with a disability can tell you of a time when they sought to express themselves sexually, only to be thwarted by those around them. It happened to me. I have cerebral palsy from birth, and my physical disability means I cannot independently dress, shower, feed myself or do any fine motor tasks. I can, however, socialize independently, speak my mind, study, work and pay taxes.

As a young adult I was living in rural North Queensland, working at TAFE and having a fling with a moderately important, intelligent public servant. I had sorted out contraception and succeeded in dating this person to the “interested” stage, only to find out that my usually accepting family could not even entertain the idea. They rang me and said “no, no, no”. They rang my boss’ mother-in-law, who rang her daughter, who rang her husband, who said to me “they think you’re going to get some”. They even rang the interested person to discuss it.

If it wasn’t so perverse, it would be funny.
My mother was the only one who moderately supported me and called my sisters off their hyper-protection of my virginity, but even she didn’t really know what to do next.

As I’m a fairly independent and determined person, I wasn’t going to take this thwarting of my sexuality quietly. I took my hard-won individual support package funding and set off to lead an independent life. I was lucky. I had support, could live in a regular apartment, and had the academic credits and nous to see a PhD as an exit-strategy from the asexual, country Queensland wasteland to the bountiful fruit garden of a capital city and university campus.

There was a lingering concern. I was a 30 year old virgin, and my medically-trained sister had led me to believe my bits might not work. So I used the yellow pages to get a nice man in a suit to come and relieve me of that worrisome cherry.

After that, it was game on. There was a hot and heavy long term multi-night stand with a person I’d known in the sector for years (just in case you find this suspicious, I should add that he had not been involved in delivering any disability services to me for years).

All this while, I had fabulous support workers. They’d cook dinners; squeeze me into spunky corsets and fishnets, refilled my condom purse. I did have one worker who got squeamish at putting lip balm on my nipples. I helped her by getting her to put it on my finger, so I could apply it myself (I sense my audience getting a bit uncomfortable here, thinking they don’t want to read details – but they are important, because you need to know that I cannot dress or feed myself – so support is an important part of helping my life to unfold).

I also took to social media to invent the persona of a sexually intriguing woman who just happened to not dress, feed or cook for herself, yet managed to live alone and have a number of random, casual sexual encounters. It was a space in which I had power and agency, where I could put trust in strangers. You can find out a lot about men and how they will treat a woman when they let their guard down because they want to walk in your secret garden. It’s easy to weed out the weirdos and not give them details.

I was the goddess of my own sexual kingdom, and knights came to court me. Through the internet I met the engineer, the logistics person, the skater boy, the young builder who bought us pizza, the Greek guy who took his wedding ring off ...

The reaction of my support workers was also very interesting. Even when they were committed Christians, like one young woman was, they seemed to value me – the whole person – over their own beliefs. This young woman, who sneezed so quietly and delicately that Freud would have been concerned, gave me dinner one night before I was set to meet someone and made me solemnly vow that I would “call her if I needed her”.

This thoroughly enlightened attitude begs the questions: if a committed Christian could honour and support my sexuality, why do so many people try to deny it? Why don’t we facilitate sexual contact for people with disabilities? And why are we so prudish about sex in general?

These are crucial questions that society must address if people with disabilities are to exercise their full human rights. Governments need to stop making “safeguarding” laws that effectively limit the sexual opportunities of people with disabilities. In some states of Australia, it is an offence to have sexual relations with a person who has “an impairment of the mind”, rendering many people with disabilities celibate.

Solicitation laws need to permit support to be given to people with disabilities who require assistance to negotiate and organise the services of sex workers. Service providers and direct care/support workers need to be less prudish, and start respecting the privacy and desirous needs of people with disabilities. And families need to understand that children with disabilities grow into adults who have the full range of adult physical and sexual needs.

Friday, 14 March 2014

Go Green This St. Paddy's Day!

St Paddy's Day Irish Beauty
Happy St. Patrick's Day!

Are you getting your sham-rocked? Its a weekend of pure green fun whether it be #greenbeer or Micky D's green shakes or participating in #CelticFestival - there's lots of ways to show your Irish spirit!

Here's to the land of #leprechauns, pots of gold, and 4-leaf clovers.  May the wind be always at your back.... We salute all you Irish blooded wee folk!