8 Tips and Tricks to Give Her Oral Sex Like a Pro

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Happy Hallowe'en! Trick or Treat?

Do you remember your childhood Halloweens?

#Halloween is my favourite event of the year. There is something awesome about dressing up and getting free candy! And imagination - you had to have imagination to put together your outfit.  Today, you just shell out a few bucks at Value Village and presto! Your #pirate costume is ready.

A few times in my childhood I was ill with tonsillitis or a cold and so pissed that I couldn't go out. This was very depressing. I'm not sure if it was the loss of free candy or the missing of the spotlight as I paraded around in my best Raggedy Ann or evil Witch  #costume. As the years passed, the celebration of Halloween never got tired or dull.  The costumes got crazier and sexier.... nowadays it seems like everyone wants to dress up like a stereotypical #prostitute or drag queen. Human behaviour is remarkably and inextricably tied to sex.  Even the kids' costumes are being criticized for being too sexual.

All Hallow's Eve - the night before All Saints Day.  What a dichotomy!  If you want to get your freak on, give us a call and we'll be happy to 'trick or treat' with you!  604-569-1136

People with disabilities love sex too!

Don't Count Us Out: People with Disabilities Love Sex Too

• What's your disability? 

• How were your injured? 

• How do you deal with your difficult situations?  

While these are all popular questions people disabilities hear, none of these are more popular than the question most of us get the most -- can you still have sex?  

Yes that's right, the masses love to wonder this.
And the answer to this tantalizing question- we can, thank god but it's usually a bit different. But different doesn't necessarily equate to bad. Even though some people get freaked out by different, a lot of people don't. The average able-bodied person would definitely be surprised at how many people are ok getting it on with someone who is disabled.

It can be quite the interesting adventure when dating and meeting new people. It can get quite funny or offensive, depending on how you look at it.  When I first became sexually active it was a bit later in life and just like everybody's first time, it wasn't that good.  Memorable yes, but good? Hell no.

For people with disabilities, we too dream of the perfect sexual rendezvous, trying to replicate something we saw in a porno, just like everyone else.  It just takes a bit more muscle power and creative thinking when you're dealing with limited mobility to make that happen.

For a lot of us, achieving great sex isn't necessarily about reaching the big orgasm either.  It's about everything before that - the intimacy, the kissing, the looks into each others eyes - we have to learn to be a little bit slower and more calculated since our mobility isn't as fluid.  While this can sometimes put a damper on eager partners, the right one will enjoy the process.  It's incredibly important to find a partner who enjoys learning and figuring out solutions when you have a disability.  A partner with no patience is no fun.
 
People with disabilities even go online for the random hookup. I'm not condoning this, but it does happen. Most would be very surprised at how many people with disabilities are posting ads on Craigslist at this very moment and it's not because we are all desperate.  Many people with disabilities have great success picking up people when they're at bars or out and about.  I've seen it with my own eyes.

We're successful when we're confident. It's normal for people with disabilities to have lowered confidence, but once we find out we can still be perceived as sexy, for many that's all we need to find the confidence we were searching for.  It's important for people with disabilities though to try not to compete with able-bodied people when it comes to all the crazy sexual moves. For many of us, complicated positions will never be possible.  We instead have to find ways to bring out the best in the simpler moves, to enjoy it more simpler things in bed and this can be quite fun too.

We're all human at the end of the day, with hormones and genitals, and lips and fantasies. Sex is a God given right to all of us, even if some of us struggle to find partners.  We can't put our desires on hold if it makes people uncomfortable. Instead, each and every one of us needs to learn how to embrace our sexuality before it's too late.  Sex is one of the greatest gifts of life no matter how different we do it.

How do you still enjoy sex?




by Tiffiny Carlson

Tiffiny Carlson is a writer and quadriplegic from Minneapolis. She has a C6 spinal cord injury from a diving accident when she was 14 years old. Writing and breaking stereotypes is her passion.

Nico to Visit Victoria BC - Oct 20 to Oct 23

Hey there Victoria, BC:

Would you like to experience an intimacy session with a Sensual Coach?  We assist adults with physical disabilities to explore, arouse, and ignite your brain's pleasure centers.  Your physical disability has no bearing on whether you can experience pleasure or not.  With a little imagination, you could be enjoying a whole lot of fun - wink wink nudge nudge - know what I mean, know what I mean? (think Monty Python)

Nico is a fantastic soul who has worked with many people with disabilities.  Super sexy, very friendly, and available for three days from Oct 20 - 23.  So.... if you'd like a House Call to remember, give us a call and let's get your appointment booked.

BC's capital city is in for a real treat.  Please call us or email us if you need further information or assistance.  We're here to help.

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When working with a Sensual Coach, they focus on eye contact, hugging, cuddling, massage and touch therapy, exploring their body and yours.  With this intimacy work, you can gain insights to your own pleasure and increase the brain's pleasure chemical - dopamine.  Its very good for your mood and overall wellbeing. Throughout your sessions, Coaches hope to ease anxiety and help you gain confidence with your body and your sexuality. 

The biggest obstacle is our brains.  We often hold back due to those negative thoughts that we've carried with us about body image and what's "normal."  And yet its our brain that receives the greatest benefit from intimacy and touch. Go figure.

If you know of someone with a physical disability who would like to experience intimacy, please give us a call.  No obligation.

Give us a cuddle!

How to Stare at Boobs Without Getting Caught

Bummer!  Summer is winding down. As we say goodbye to another fantastic Vancouver summer, we also say 'thank you' to all those wonderful ladies who keep us on our toes and practicing the "look but don't get caught" moves.

How to Stare at a Girl’s Cleavage (from Lovepanky.com)

What are the Do’s and Don’ts of staring at a girl’s breasts or at her cleavage? Here’s your complete guide to staring at a woman’s breasts without ever getting caught. Learn how you can stare down a gorgeous girl’s blouse without making her uncomfortable or pissing her off.

Unfortunately for men, staring at women’s shirts is as involuntary as a knee jerk. We do want to look at women and see their assets, but it’s all about doing it well, and in such a way that she doesn’t get offended or uncomfortable.

 

You’re not her guy, so what makes you think she’ll be happy to flash her breasts at you without feeling uncomfortable, unless you picked her off the red street.

Checking out some girl’s cleavage or her breasts is not bad, especially if you think it’s attractive. It’s all about the way you go about staring at it that makes all the difference.

THE SIX RULES OF STARING AT A CLEAVAGE
There are a few do’s and don’ts that you should follow to pull off the perfect heist of staring at a girl’s cleavage and walking out of it happily clean!

Rule #1 STARE WHEN SHE’S NOT LOOKING
I know it’s hard to resist staring at a woman’s breasts while you’re talking to her. You wait for a moment to catch a glimpse and you can’t hear anything other than, “look down… look down… look down…” It can be really distracting, especially if she’s revealing a bit of her cleavage.
But you have to hold on. If you really have to look down at a girl’s cleavage, do it when she’s looking away for some reason. That’s the best thing to do, because you get a little sneak peek and she gets to talk to you without feeling uncomfortable. You may think you got away with staring in the middle of a conversation, but remember, a woman is extremely conscious of her body, and trust me, if you look down, she’ll know!

Rule #2 REMEMBER YOUR AGE WHEN YOU STARE
First of all, before we go ahead, I want you to know that I respect women, a lot! I can’t stand a guy who tries messing with a girl, especially when she feels threatened. A few weeks ago, I was standing in line to buy a couple of tickets for a movie. There was this old guy who must have been in his 60′s who was grinning and staring blatantly at the breasts of two girls standing in front of me who were probably still in school!

The girls started to freak out because of his dirty stares, and the whole staring bit was just pathetic. Involuntarily, I yelled out to him, and asked him what his age was. He tried retaliating, but by then, most of the others who were feeling just as uncomfortable joined in, and he eventually had to walk out without his tickets, but with a lot of embarrassment.

If you’re trying to figure what I’m trying to say here, all I’m trying to get into your head is, if you’re over 30 and haven’t figured out how to stare at a woman’s cleavage discreetly, give it up. And if your idea of sex is something that would land you in jail, then see a therapist. We’re trying to have a good time staring at a woman’s tee shirt, but not at their expense!

Rule #3 WEAR SUNGLASSES WHILE STARING
Wear sunglasses, especially the darker ones. What they don’t know won’t hurt them. If you want to have a good time trying to stare at a girl’s breasts, then use your shades. It’s a win-win situation.

Rule #4 DON’T EVER OVERDO IT
Son of a guns who stare at a woman while feeling themselves up or staring like they want the woman right there can be really threatening and gross, especially on a lonely street. If there is no reciprocation from the woman, stop trying to focus hard below the neck. Look at her for a millisecond, and move on. There’s no need to behave like a psycho pervert.

Rule #5 HOW LONG SHOULD YOU STARE?
Now this is a delicate subject. To you, an hour of staring at a girl’s breasts may seem like a few minutes or even seconds, but it feels terrible for a girl who doesn’t think you’re fanciable or attractive. And how much would her breasts change in an hour anyways. Just a small glance, and nothing more than that. Remember, if you’re having fun at her expense, you’re a pervert and a sadist who should be buried alive!

Rule #6 DON’T DIE A VIRGIN
Have you ever had a friend who goes crazy when he walks into a club, and just can’t take his eyes off any girl out there? He just wants to stare, fantasize, and ogle at all their assets until his tongue drools and drops off the side of his mouth. To him it’s fun. To the women, he’s going to die a virgin! Don’t be that guy.

Follow these simple tips when you stare at a girl’s breasts or her cleavage, and you can make this world a better place.

9 Things Sex Experts Want You to Know

http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/sex-therapist-advice9 Things Sex Experts Want You to Know

Great article!