Cheerleader Safety Month

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March Cheerleader Safety Month


Let's face it - pom poms can be deadly! So, if you happen to know a practising Cheerleader please, for the love of god - check out this link. Our goal is simple- to raise awareness about the dangers of cheerleading and to warn the general public as a community service.

March - in memory of injured and dead cheerleaders is celebrated with Cheerleader Safety Month. High-5 the cheerleaders in your life.

Staring at Cleavage Like a Gentleman

Staring at a Girl’s Cleavage like a Gentleman

(from Lovepanky.com)

Staring at a girl’s cleavage can be fun, but no amount of fun is worth it if it makes a girl feel uncomfortable. Stare at women, but never in a manner that would make them feel nervous, uneasy or awkward. Learn the true art of staring at breasts like a gentleman.

Remember the biggest rule of staring at breasts, when you stare at a girl, you should have a good time, and she should still feel comfortable around you.

If you think they asked for it just because they wore something revealing, try this. Walk into some part of your town or a park that is filled with homosexual men, wearing a short tight pair of silk boxers.

Sit down for a while in a quiet corner of the park, and see if you can survive a few hours. Then you’d know how it feels to be a woman who gets stared at all the time.

Girls stare too, but they do it in a very discreet manner. They don’t loll their tongues or undress men mentally when they look. And the best part, a guy always feels appreciated when a girl looks, so try making a woman feel appreciative of you instead of hating you.

Women do wear revealing clothes so they can look good and attract men. So you’d probably say the women who wear low cut blouses and push up bras asked for it, and have no right to complain about men staring at their breasts or peeping down their cleavage.

But just because they wear something that accentuates their assets doesn’t mean you have the right to harass women, nor does it mean that particular woman wants you.

All the pretty girl in the revealing top is trying to say is “Hey guys! Look at me, I’m beautiful and sexy… but don’t you dare touch me.” There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s their bodies, after all. But why should men be forced to look away when God gave us the gift of sight?

Are we supposed to turn away every time we think a stare or two will offend some woman? Nope. Look, stare, and let your eyes linger. Have a great time looking at her breasts or staring down her top.

But remember, subtlety is the key. The next time you see a great looking girl with the perfect breasts or a cleavage that makes you go va-va-voom, admire her from afar and as she approaches, just catch a brief glimpse of her and don’t pause there to admire the view. Just go on your way after about half a millisecond. Be quick with your eyes, and you can have a great time, and thankfully not at her expense.

Now go on, walk across the street and behave like a good gentleman, and stare at those great breasts without pissing anyone off. Who said men can’t be pigs and gentlemen and the same time?

And all you men reading this, for the sake of the women who still think men are shameless pigs who can’t stop drooling and staring at a girl’s cleavage and breasts, go prove them wrong!

NATIONAL HUG DAY - JAN 21

Tomorrow is National Hug Day.  So, in honour of this spectacular event, let's learn a little about why hugging and cuddling are so darn good for us.... 
 
10 INCREDIBLE FACTS ABOUT CUDDLING


It’s no secret that cuddling makes you feel good when you’re in a new or established relationship. It’s also something that you miss greatly when you’re single. But did you know there’s actually a scientific reason for that? It’s true! There are many surprising benefits of cuddling—so read on, and you’ll want to cuddle someone right now!

1. Cuddling releases oxytocin.

Oxytocin is a hormone that does everything from making you feel good to helping you feel connected to others. Oxytocin is crucial in the act of cuddling, as you’ll see from its benefits popping up in the list below.

2. Cuddling boosts your immune system.

When you’re so in love you feel invincible, you’re experiencing oxytocin release. This feel-good hormone makes you feel like nothing can hurt you—which is an amazing benefit! It also increases hormones that help fight infection. So, basically, you’re boosting your immune system because you’re feeling too good and healthy to get sick. The power of positive thinking—and feeling loved and secure—actually works!

3. Cuddling relieves pain.

Just as it boosts your immune system, cuddling and releasing oxytocin will decrease your pain levels. Whenever your neck hurts, what do you do? Rub it, right? Even simple touches like that release enough oxytocin to make you feel better, so imagine the effect cuddling has!

4. Cuddling helps deepen your relationships.

Communication is important in relationships, but people often forget how effective and meaningful touch can be. When your career is so stressful you come home and can’t stop thinking about the job, you’re taking a negative toll on your relationship. Instead, imagine coming home and cuddling with your partner for even ten minutes a day. This brief break from the stress of everyday life will not only give you all the other benefits listed here, but will also deepen your relationship. You’ll be taking time to focus solely on your partner and what you feel for them.

5. Cuddling can lead to more.

Even non-erotic touch can release dopamine, which is a hormone that increases sexual desire. Getting a sweet hug or massage from your partner after a long day can lead to more, which is win-win for both of you! Regular sexual activity will strengthen your relationship as well. Also, sex is a good stress reliever, and an easy way to get in some physical activity.

6. Cuddling helps women bond.

Have you heard the term “oxytocin” in relation to childbirth and breastfeeding? It’s because this chemical doesn’t just inspire good feelings between couples—it also works for women and their babies. Oxytocin helps relax the mother, so that breastfeeding may come more easily. It also enables sleep, even when the mother might have difficulty sleeping with a newborn in the house.

7. Cuddling reduces social anxiety.

Oxytocin inspires positive thinking. It helps you have an optimistic outlook on the world. Which means when you get a hug right as you arrive at the party where you only know one person, you’re going to feel happier and more social going in. You’ll feel like you can charm everyone at the party. And with oxytocin coursing through your system, you will!

8. Cuddling reduces stress.

It’s obvious by now, right? Oxytocin is an amazing natural hormone that has so many benefits for the human body. It’s only natural that all these positive effects are going to release stress, also. You’re feeling more connected with your partner, you’re feeling confident in social situations, your immune system is stronger—what do you have to be stressed about? You have a great, cuddle-filled, loving life. Enjoy it!

9. Cuddling lowers your risk of heart disease.

Yup—oxytocin again! All the benefits listed above add together to mean less stress, less anxiety, lower blood pressure and—you got it—a lower risk of heart disease! Because your heart is happier and not working as hard to combat the effects of stress and sickness, you’ll be healthier, longer.

10. Cuddling doesn’t have a definition.

Cuddling doesn’t have to be between you and your romantic partner. It doesn’t even have to be with another person—you can rub your own shoulders! You can also hug friends or play with your pets. If you don’t want to be social or don’t have a furry friend, never fear! You can take a warm bath or get a massage. Feeling warm and connected by some sort of touch is enough to release oxytocin into your system and get you feelin’ good!

Featured photo credit: Lovers kissing and cuddling on a city street with passersvia Shutterstock

This article was reprinted and was written by: Allison Renner

Positive Self Talk in 2015

How to Master Positive Self Talk and Banish Negativity

Your inner critic doesn’t always need to be so harsh. You can be more compassionate and forgiving towards yourself by practicing positive self-talk. By Sarah Rogers

“Like food is to the body, self-talk is to the mind. Don’t let any junk thoughts repeat in your head.” – Maddy Malhotra, Author

People think in words, and the words we say to ourselves can be either empowering or limiting, depending on what approach we take.

You’ve undoubtedly heard the expression you are your own worst critic, and for many of us, it’s true! While a little bit of self-criticism can be a good thing – by urging us to become a better person – there is a massive difference between saying, “I need to eat more vegetables” and “I’m a fat slob.”

Excessive self-criticism, in the form of negative self-talk leads us to focus on our failures and mistakes instead of the small things we could improve. These moments of negative self-talk, such as “I’m so stupid” or “I’m not good enough” are moments of self-destruction, which work to steal away our happiness and self-fulfillment.

When you practice negative self-talk, it can be truly damaging to your self-esteem and self-worth, and over time can be associated with higher levels of stress, unhappiness and even depression.

Positive self-talk is the opposite of self-destruction, and can be both a healing and empowering process. It is a dialogue that goes on in your mind, but also greatly affects your attitude and feelings of self worth. Positive self-talk is a space where you believe in yourself and are confident in your abilities.

How to master the art of positive self talk

The art of positive self-talk takes a lot of time and effort to practice effectively, and there are several things you need to know and do while you’re practicing it.

#1 You need to observe and assess the validity of what you’re saying to yourself. Over time, you will become better at seeing trends in triggers that cause your negative self-talk, and you’ll learn how to better deal with those. This observation of your self-talk will allow you to become aware of the thoughts you are having, and how they directly influence your emotions and actions. 

#2 You need to learn to reframe your thinking and give the negative thoughts a positive spin. Sometimes, this can be the most difficult part because it somehow feels fake. But, when you reframe your negative thoughts to something more positive, you don’t allow yourself the space for self-destruction.

#3 You need to be aware of absolutes such as “I always” and “I never”. These phrases tend to be harmful because they create an instant limitation of you and your ability to change and grow. Avoid absolutes when you’re practicing self-talk by questioning yourself. Ask yourself how you got to this thought, or what would be a better way to overcome this particular challenge. This questioning technique is more proactive, as it limits negative thoughts and allows you a variety of responses to choose from.

This last practice of replacement is crucial to limiting negative thoughts and encouraging positive self-talk. You need to learn to replace your negative self-talk messages with something positive, and empowering. Use gentle words to refer to yourself and to situations, and don’t limit yourself by using “I can’t” or “I’m not”.

The most common destructive things we tell ourselves

Below are five common self-destructive things we say to ourselves through negative self-talk, and examples of how we can work against them by replacing the negative messages with the art of positive self-talk.

#1 “You are so stupid, ugly, useless, etc.”

This is the critic inside you that can often be the loudest and most damaging. It can tear your self-esteem apart in a second, and kill any dream or goal you were thinking of achieving. It tells you you’re not good enough, and that you don’t deserve happiness and success. This critic denies individuals their own self-worth, and value. To combat this critical self-talk you can say the following positive self-talk internally or aloud, “I am worthwhile, valuable and more than enough! I can and will do great things.”

#2 “I can’t do it because I’m afraid of failure, embarrassment, responsibility, etc.”

This form of negative self-talk is based on fear and shame, and stops us from aspiring to try new things or take risks. We all have our fears, but in order to live life to the fullest – with excitement and happiness – we need to take action instead of remaining unproductively frozen in time. Instead of saying I can’t, you should instead switch to a positive form of self-talk such as “I have the courage to act even though I am afraid.”

#3 “Why does this always happen to me?”

This negative self-talk practice is that of the victim. While we might not have control over everything that happens in our lives, we can control how we respond to these situations and challenges. If you choose the attitude of the victim, you are relying on someone else to provide your own happiness. You should instead change your self-talk to something along the lines of “I have the ability to make the most of every situation. This will pass.” 

#4 “I wish I had what other people have.”

This negative self-talk stems from jealously, but we should always remember that envy is exhausting, and can leave us feeling empty and alone. It’s much better to be thankful for what you do have and say, “I am lucky! I have what I need, and I’m working towards what I want!” 

#5 “I will never forgive this person for doing that!”

This negative voice is the un-forgiver, which can turn your mind, body and soul bitter from the inside out. Forgiving others and yourself is one of the most liberating things you can do! Instead of focusing on what you cannot forgive, focus on what you can and say, “I cannot control their actions, but I can control my own and choose to forgive …”

Perfection is overrated, here’s why…

Ultimately you need to embrace the fact that you are not, and will never be perfect. It’s extremely freeing when you stop holding yourself to unachievable standards. Perfectionism is destructive, and does not always guarantee success or happiness. People learn the most when they mess up and try again. So, it’s important to relax your standards, and give yourself the same empathy you’d give a friend. When you do this it will be easier to challenge the negative self-talk and focus more on positive messages.

We admitted that we’re often our own worst critics. Yet, now is the time to modify that rule. While we are creatures of habit, and easily fall into patterns of self-destructive thoughts and behaviors, we need to switch it up. Instead of continuing to be our own worst critics, we need to teach ourselves to be our own personal support system. We need to respect ourselves, and never say anything that we wouldn’t want another person to say to us.

While challenging your negative inner voice, and practicing the art of positive self-talk can take time to get used to, eventually your mind will catch on. Your efforts will pay off in the form of strong self-esteem and respect for yourself and your abilities. It won’t happen overnight, but the more effort you put into replacing those negative thoughts with positive self-talk, the better you will feel about yourself. 

By practicing positive self talk constantly and continuously, you’ll find that the things you tell yourself will branch out towards your personality and the way you deal with obstacles along the way. Be more compassionate towards yourself, and you’ll see the many positive changes this will bring you.

Quinn Visiting Vancouver - Dec 12 to 14

Our lovely Quinn moved very far away but is traveling back to #Vancouver for the weekend of
Dec 12-14. If you would like to have a session with Quinn while she is here, please give our office a call or fill out a House Call Request form. She is a delight! #intimate #sensual #disabled #massage

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Amelie Returns to Vancouver!

Welcome back Amelie!


We are really happy to tell you that Amelie has returned to Vancouver and will be with us for about six months. Amelie is from Europe and is a wonderful #sensualcoach.  She speaks English fluently. We know you would enjoy her company and her experience. Very lovely, friendly, and sweet 22 year old.

If you have a physical challenge, #disability, or impairment and you would like to learn more about your sexual health, please call on us. We are here to assist you to live a full life regardless of any challenge.

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Mei-Lee: Our newest Sensual Coach

A NEW COACH

We have just hired a lovely young Asian-Canadian woman to be our newest #sensual coach. Her name is Mei-Lee and she is a sweet treat! Mei-Lee is available for couples, men, and women and welcomes all LGBT clients too. She is available for the greater Vancouver area and also Whistler!  604-569-1136